The Best Thing a Mother Can Do: Thankful Posts

What's the best thing a mother can do for her child?

Reflecting on my past and all that my mother did for me and the future, my children, and all I do for them, I'd have to say my answer would be:

PRAY.

I know for a fact that the prayers of my mother and my honorary mamas met God's ears and turned His favor toward me in my darkest hours. When I rebelled as a teen. When I continued in my rebellion as a young adult. And when I've needed God to come through in my adulthood. They've never stopped praying, and I knew it then and I know it now. He has been faithful to answer and to save me from my mistakes.

As a mother, I know that prayer directly affects my children's lives as well. Twice in the past two years I've felt an urgency in my spirit to fast and pray. And twice, as I've finished my fast, my children have come to me with serious confessions. God has prepared me to deal with these with grace, which has afforded me my children's trust. He has answered my prayers, as well.

I am left in awe of what a prayer can do when the God who sees all and knows what is hidden deep within our hearts is on the receiving end.

And I am eternally grateful for my mother and all of my mamas who have never stopped crying in God's ear for me, as I will continue doing for my own children and other kids God has provided for me to love.

If I've learned anything, it's that I may not be able to change my children (just as my parents could never change me), and I may not be able to make their decisions for them (just as my parents could never make mine, either). But I can affect change through my prayers and my obedience to the Lord.

Which is why I will never stop praying for my children. No matter what they choose to do.

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Is Happily Ever After Worth the Struggle? Thankful Posts

Fairytales provide little girls with a false perception of love and marriage. I hate to say it, but there isn't really such a thing as "happily ever after" here on earth. That's only found in the pages of a book.

The truth is that every relationship takes work. Show me one couple - or one family - who has been blessed with "happy" every day of their existence. You can't.

Because despite our best intentions, every one of us has a sinful nature. No one is perfect. Every one of us has a flaw somewhere in our makeup. Even after we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior and are covered in the blood of His loving sacrifice, we don't see perfection until we die a physical death. We still make mistakes. We still say stupid things. And we still, against our best intentions, hurt others.

So is marriage worth the effort? Is it worth struggling for the happily ever after?

I would say a resounding yes. Just like every other day of my life, I am thankful today for my husband, Victor. And I am thankful for our marriage.

Over the past 16 years, I have watched our love:

• Struggle to exist as we've battled through the issues being a step-family brings.

• Struggle to exist as we developed intimacy with one another.

• Grow as we endured our struggles.

• Blossom into a love that covers all sin.

• Endure despite the enemy's sneaky attempts to destroy it.

I can say right now that I haven't liked my husband every day of our lives together. But I have loved him, no matter what he's said or done.

And he's done the same for me. Recently, I find myself amazed at his patience with me as I've struggled to maintain my composure, wanting to lash out against all that is chaos in my life.

I love organization. I love people who consider one another when they make decisions, since all of our decisions affect someone else. I love stability and consistency. And as life does, it feels as if it's spun into chaos in recent months. Which leaves me stressed, burdened, and exhausted. And even as I go to Jesus and lay it all at His feet, the little things irritate and bubble into eruptions that are difficult to push back and hold down until they fizzle.

Yet love.

Love trusts that this too shall pass. Love understands what lays underneath the irritations and frustrations. Love sees the truth deep within. Love knows and recognizes where the grumpies come from. Love patiently listens, waiting for the divine moment to respond in love. To reveal what the heart searches for. To convict with a gentle touch that brings out the new man. The revelation of who I am and Who is in control.

My husband walks in this love, and I am grateful that God has given me the blessing of him. He isn't afraid to put in the time and do the work that is necessary to hold our three-stranded chord together and keep it from unraveling at the first hint of difficulties ahead. And for that I am eternally grateful. God gave me the man He knew I needed. And Vic isn't afraid to be that man.

I can look forward to my happily ever after with Jesus. And I can experience abundant life here on earth. Every day may not be happy, but every day is filled with the joy of my salvation and the love of Christ. Which my husband exudes.

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When Children Bring God's Conviction: Thankful Posts

Over the weekend, I dropped my blogging plate. In one way, this bothers me, since I'm in the midst of a series of posts about being thankful. Missing three days kind of put a snag in the "series."

But did it?

I spent those three days cleaning house and taking care of my family. Spending time with the kiddos and my husband. Resting.

If I consider eternity, missing three blog posts isn't really going to matter much. But missing the opportunity to pour into my children, snuggle with my husband, and to let each of them know how much I love them - enough to drop "work" for a few days and focus on them - will certainly make a difference.

Too often I get sucked into work mode. I'm a doer. A go-getter. It's very easy to sit my butt in a chair at my desk in the corner of my dining room (in the middle of the house) and find something to do online. Check e-mail. Check Facebook. Pin a few items to my Pinterest boards. Recheck Facebook. Retweet a few things.

Before I know it, I've spent the morning staring at a screen and ignoring my son's request to play Life. Or watch him skateboard. Or ...

And my son's quick to point out how much more I care about work than him.

Throughout the past 15 years, my kids have been quick to point out my presumptuous sins. Although their words prick my heart, I am thankful for them. Because they're true.

Sometimes I do neglect to spend quality time with my kids in order to check one more thing off my to-do list. Sometimes I wish for a solid week alone so I can work uninterrupted. But that wouldn't really make a difference, would it? My to-do list will keep growing as my time with my kids diminishes.

So for three days this weekend, I turned away from the computer screen and spent time with my children. Because I am thankful for the time that I have with them before they grow up and move out of my house and into their own adulthood.

So, today I am thankful for four wonderful beings who bring great joy into my life: Ezra. Caleb. Hannah. And Gideon. God has blessed me tremendously! My quiver is full.

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If you are a parent, what is one aspect of parenting you're thankful for? If you aren't a parent, what's one thing you're thankful your parents taught you?

Confession of a Control Freak with a Savior Complex: Thankful Posts

Do you wish people would do what you ask when you ask? Does it get under your skin when someone you love doesn't seem to want to be healed of their brokenness? Do you love correction, no matter the pain of internal change?

I do.

This past week, I struggled to grasp why someone I love would refuse to do what everyone around him has asked. For his safety. For his health. For his endurance.

When my husband lovingly pointed out that I cannot make someone else do what they don't want to, reminded me that I want to control things I can't, and told me to let go of the situation before it hurt me (I had to take Pepto Bismol at one point), I went to God.

And here's what I discovered...

I hate to see brokenness or chaos, especially in those I love. I want to fix things. I want to make them better. I don't enjoy watching them suffer ... in their sickness, in their sin, in their self-destruction. I can't stand a messy room. If I had the time, I'd clean and organize everyone's house.

I'm not unlike the God whose image and likeness I am created in. He can't stand to see humanity self-destruct either. He can't ignore mankind's brokenness. And He detests sin. So much that He sent His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him may have eternal life. Because He loves us more. He didn't send Jesus to condemn us. He sent Him to save us.

And yet we make our own choices. We have the freedom of will. We can decide to accept His love and redemption or to reject it.

And for someone whose love language is acts of service, saying "no" to their simple request (and possibly complicated ones) is perceived as rejection. Just like Jesus was rejected and hung on a cross. Just like many continue to reject Him today.

I take comfort in knowing that God knows exactly how I feel in this messy moment of life. That He understands the pain of rejection. That He created me like Him in this way, even if I'm a control freak with a Savior complex.

At least I know the only One who can save. And how to let go and let Him work it out.

Or not, depending on someone else's decisions. Which I am not responsible for.

So today I find myself thankful for my Savior, who doesn't condemn me for being a control freak with a Savior complex. Instead, He understands. And He loves. And He corrects. And He forgives.

PS ~ I don't profess to be perfect. No, I'm far from it. But I am willing to accept correction when it is due and strive to better myself, since I'm the only one I have the power to change. Please don't think I'm implying I'm better than anyone else. I know I'm not.

What quirk do you own that reflects God's heart for mankind? Are you thankful for it?

Do You Know My Heart's Intent? Thankful Posts

If there's one thing I really dislike, it's people's preconceived notions. Their before-I-know-you ideas of who I am. Their before-I-ask-you ideas of what I've done. Gossip. Judgment. Ignorance.

Thankfully, we have a just judge who sees us. Who knows our heart's true intent. Who knows our motives.

So when that person or the world comes against us with their uninformed thoughts, we can lean back on God and rest assured that He knows exactly who we are and what our intentions are. I am thankful today for His ability to examine me, to prove me, to try my mind and heart. His judgment is the only judgment that truly matters.

What aspect of God are you thankful for today?

Everlasting Love: Thankful Posts

Sometimes those who say they love me don't act as though they do. They say things that send fiery darts into my heart. They do things they know annoy me, as though they can't help themselves. They shut me out, rather than work that disagreement out. They refuse my love offering.

Doesn't it amaze you how it's the ones you love the most who can damage you the most?

Thankfully, I serve a God who loves me with an everlasting love. One that knows no bounds. One that never fails. One that is there despite my disappointments. And today, I am thankful for Him. Jesus. One who loved me so much that He bore my filthy sinful nature on a cross. One who loved me so much He forgave me and continues to forgive me 70 times 7 times a day. One who deeply desires a relationship with me ... no matter my stuff.

How has Jesus shown you His everlasting love?

Put Your Foot Here and Walk: Thankful Posts

 

In 2010, I Googled "Christian Writing." God had called me to write for Him, but I really had no clue where to start. So I searched for knowledge. I ordered books about writing. I discovered The Christian Writer's Market Guide. And I stumbled across the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference online.

Not knowing what to expect. Leaping out in faith, hoping God would catch me if I'd made a mistake. I registered for the conference.

And God let me fly.

I met the right people. I took the right classes for what I needed to begin doing. I found favor with God and man. And my career took off faster than I could have ever hoped for.

My heart planned my way, but God directed my steps. Thankfully I listened as He provided those directions. I've found abundance in my career as a result.

Today I am thankful that although I plan my way, God always directs my steps. Sure, sometimes I step too far to the left or to the right. And sometimes I stub my toe as a result. But no sooner than I put my foot back on the path He's called me to, things shift back on track. All I need to do is be obedient to His directive prompts.

Are you walking where He's called you to step? Or have you taken a step or two in another direction? What can you do to get back on track?

Second Chances: Thankful Posts

Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22-23

Oh how many times I have failed! Failed as a child of God. Failed as a wife. Failed as a mother. Failed as a friend.

I take failure hard. Sometimes I cry. Sometimes I want to run far away, not have to face my mistakes. Because I'd have to admit my shortcomings. My lack. My inability. Despite how hard I tried. How much effort I put in. I don't like to make mistakes. To disappoint God or others.

So I find myself incredibly thankful that God's mercies are new every day. That I have a second chance. That I am not consumed by these mistakes, these faults, these shortcomings. Instead, I am overwhelmed by God's compassion for me and His faithfulness. He never fails.

Where do you find that courage to say you will try again tomorrow? To lay down your failures and recognize your second chance?

Considering the Path of Life: Thankful Posts

As I look back on this year, I can see God's goodness in it, even when I strayed from the path He had chosen for me.

In July, I took a look at my blog, The Thoughtful Spot, and realized I hadn't written a post since January. Not really great for a person who had been consistent with my posts the previous year. My readership had begun to grow a little, and I found myself enjoying the writing process. Now, almost a year later, I'm grasping for inspiration, which is very uncomfortable for me.

So I started this new blog. I focused it on encouraging others to be who God created them to be, quirks and all. To give people permission to find God's goodness and life's abundance every day. Just the way you are. (Not excusing your sinful nature, of course. That needs to be dealt with, which I know God will do. He did with me. Still does.)

See, this year I took on more than I should have. I strayed a little from the path that God had for me: writing. Instead I edited. Which was okay. I was successful at doing so. But some part of me lost its spark, its passion, its life. When God called me to use my talents, He said to write. So I'm getting back to writing. And life, joy, excitement.

I may still edit, but it will be secondary to writing. Because God's paths drip with abundance. And who doesn't like abundance? I do. I admit it willingly. And I want God's abundance in my life.

So, as I am thankful today for God's goodness and abundance of life, I encourage you to consider the path you're on. Is it the path God called you to? Is it dripping with abundant life? Do you find joy and goodness around every bend? If not, consider that deep desire within your heart. God most likely put it there to give you a hint what He has in store for you. Find and follow that path for a time. You may be surprised what you find.