Monday, October 13, 2014

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's that not everyone is going to like me. And even those who love me will be able to point out at least one flaw in me. 
Whether it's the length of my haircut, the extra-long hair on my chin that I missed plucking, or the fact that I like to be alone when others wish I were more snuggly, there will always be something I could improve.

It's so easy to change things these days. Too much cellulite hanging from that tummy? Lipo it. Don't like your hair color? Dye it. Have blue eyes and wish they were green? Tinted contacts.

But what if I don't want to change?

What if I like myself just the way God intended me to be?

What if I like my perfectionist side? I think it's what causes me to strive for excellence in all I do.

Even when I fall short.

What if I like being alone? Need my space? My down time? It allows me the time I need to recharge so I can face tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day.

And the next time the kids fight. And the next time I get a text and have to drop everything to do something for my husband. And the next time the dog pees on the floor and I have to clean it up.

Because God wired me that way. Which is okay, because He said we'd need to rest.

My husband has a short temper. But he's passionate. My oldest son is sensitive. But he's compassionate. My middle son pushes everyone's buttons. But he's a go-getter. My daughter worries too much. But she's protective. My youngest son doesn't like to talk to people much. But he's a deep thinker.

It's easy to find faults in others. It's easy to dislike them because of these faults.

But it's just as easy to find the awesome in them too. If we'll take the time to get to know them for who they truly are. And look at them through God's eyes and not our own.

We are, after all, created in His image and likeness.

And we all know that God doesn't make junk.

But man ... man has a bad habit of making all sorts of junk. Especially in the lives of others. And we love to sit on our couches and watch people and their junk and their worlds collapse. Why?

Do we love to laugh at others in their demise? Do we think ourselves better than them? Do we wish we could do something to help? Or are we simply thankful we aren't dealing with that issue in our own lives?

If we were truly Christian (Christ-like) in our attitudes and thinking, we'd turn off the television and pray for those people we love to watch, asking God to reveal the beauty laying dormant inside of them. Because once the camera's turned off, I'm pretty certain there's deep-rooted shame, bitterness, and a desire to be truly loved for who they are hiding deep in the corners of their hearts.

Because we're all created in the image and likeness of God. Yes. Even them.

Even those people who called us "Muttley" or "Four-eyes" or "not good enough."

Even you.

Even me.

And deep down inside, we long to be loved for who God created us to be.

Short hair. Glasses. Rollie-poly tummy. Overtired. Grumpy. Frumpy. Not-so-perfect perfectionist. Chasing my dreams when others think I should get a job. Me.

These are the people this blog is dedicated to. Those imperfect people who want to be loved for who they are, no matter what.
Because when we look at each other as children of God, created in His image and likeness, we look with love. Not condemnation. Not needing to change each other. Not pushing our idea of who we think someone else should be.



  1. "It's easy to find faults in others. It's easy to dislike them because of these faults.

    But it's just as easy to find the awesome in them too. If we'll take the time to get to know them for who they truly are. And look at them through God's eyes and not our own."

    Such great words and so true! We all need this perspective to help change the culture around us - great post!

    1. Hi Gretchen!

      Here's to changing the culture around us together! Thank you for stopping by and being the first person to comment on my new blog. I appreciate that!


  2. I loved the concrete examples you gave us with your family-- how from one perspective you can see one thing, but from another angle, something beautiful! I really enjoyed the personal images you created, too. Good job! I look forward to reading more!

    1. Hi Cody!

      If there's anything else I've learned in my relationship with Jesus, it's that I have to stop thinking of things from my earthly perspective and look at them through His perspective.

      I'm glad you enjoyed the examples and the personal images I provided. One of my goals with this blog is to be transparent and real and personable. I hope I'm doing so even from this first post.

      I'm thankful you'll be joining me in this journey. I look forward to your thoughts along the way!


  3. Beautifully written, dear friend. Love your heart and your authenticity.

    1. Thank you, sweet friend! It's really nice to see you here. :)


    2. Thank you so much for this post- it was real and vulnerable- humbling and convicting.

    3. Thank you for stopping by, Becki! I appreciate your kind words. It's something I have to daily remind myself, too.
      ~ Alycia


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